Goldilocks Discomfort

Communication practice is a lot like going to the gym and lifting weights.   I can see the skills I want to learn, to internalize, to strengthen, but I seriously don’t always enjoy exerting the effort.I want more Ease. Simplicity. Competence. ...

Safe vs. Brave

Last weekend, I went to see Miss Peregrine’s School for Peculiar Children. At the end of the movie, Jacob laments that he will not be able to keep the children safe anymore. Emma replies, “You don’t have to make us feel safe, because you’ve made us feel...

Trump, Women and Violence

This evening, in a moment of total distraction I badly burned the tips of my fingers on my right hand. I even heard them sizzle.  I kid you not. (Short bit of writing today: Typing. Seriously. Hurts.)   Many people have been asking me how to empathize with and...

Scary Shit and Shadow Comforts

On the days that scary shit gets the better of me, I notice myself holding my breath a lot. My body feels braced against life itself.Fearful, stuck and paralyzed.These take hold of me whenever I am about to really commit to moving in the direction of something that I...
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