Say Something? Or Just Listen?

Photo by Jerry Pereida on Unsplash Last week I gave you three important inner-resourcing, self-management practices: 1. Actually feeling the impact that things have on you when they say something triggering2. Looking for the gold buried underneath people’s...

Lead into Gold: Transform Judgment

The next time you are triggered, transform judgments (yours and theirs!) with three practical self-resourcing practices that will help you stay both honest and kind. Imagine this. Your extended family has traveled from afar to gather for a festive holiday celebration....

Feeling it, Fixes it

Although we often want to move away from unpleasant feelings to avoid them, remember that often simply feeling it, fixes it. Situation One: As elevator doors were closing, I glimpsed a young child, maybe three years old, run towards the door to get in.The doors shut...

Emotional Strength Training

What do you do when your feelings get hurt? Well, let me tell you what didn’t work for me recently, and what did.  Building emotional strength takes intentionality and practice.When I discovered that someone who once played a pivotal role in my life...

Connecting to Deeper Needs

We often think we know what we want, but don’t. Connecting to deeper needs in any given situation can be game-changing. Recently, I asked my 15-year old daughter to help me take some photos for a project; I needed at least two people to make it work. I planned...
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