Rock that Boat (with Empathy).

This week I rocked the boat by setting some new boundaries with people I love.I asked for what I wanted, knowing it would be counter-cultural.It wasn’t easy.  I was scared.Normally, I’d just manage the conflict internally, and not “get...

3 Steps for Repair Work

When I’m tired or low on interpersonal resources, I find it difficult to show up with compassion and grace.I sink back into judgmental, controlling, and reactive habits even though I know they are self-sabotaging and unlikely to result in what I actually want.I’ve...

Powerful Choices

I have been reflecting upon questions of power, consciousness and choice. Caroline Myss (one of my favorite teachers, despite her judgmental style) often talks about how our choices are our fundamental power.As I was preparing for my talk on Conscious Commitments last...

Hindsight, Foresight and Insight

It’s been a whirlwind of catching up since I returned from Egypt, along with a good dose of slowing down and – unfortunately – getting sick. Ugh. This morning I am sitting at my desk, looking out my window at the 15+ inches of snowfall we got last...

Grow Your Comfort Zone

Last week, I got an full immersion experience into what it means to work at the edge of my comfort zone and expand into my yesses. When I was invited to be a guest on Marianne Combs’ show on Minnesota Public...

Bodies, Boundaries and Beliefs

During a boundary exploration exercise at a workshop last year, I had a moment of profound insight. We were exploring the felt-sense of boundaries in our bodies, and playing with our ability to track sensations and read cues that arose from within.

The...