by Yvette Erasmus | Mar 7, 2018 | Compassion, Empathy, NVC
I was recently re-organizing some handouts that I often use for workshops, and came across this one on the difference between empathic and non-empathic responses.Reading it again, I was surprised to find myself arguing with my own handout, and realized that... by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 28, 2018 | Compassion
Last week, I received this lovely question:”I love how much more literate in feelings I am now, however honestly, I just don’t really get the universal human needs. Like how to actually connect to them and communicate about them in real life in real... by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 20, 2018 | Compassion
As I sit down to write to you today, I notice I am tired and longing for sleep.It’s the best kind of tired.The kind of tired that I feel after having used up every moment of a day doing work that I love, grappling with issues that feel meaningful and working... by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 13, 2018 | Compassion
I remember telling my therapist (long, long ago) that the one thing I wanted to work on in therapy was why I was drawn like a moth to a flame to romantic partners who inevitably caused me tremendous distress and heartache. I could recognize... by Yvette Erasmus | Jan 30, 2018 | Compassion, NVC
Whenever I ask for something relational that I’m needing (comfort, affection, to be heard or seen) I feel super vulnerable. This isn’t easy.I worry about:1. Being turned down2. Feeling disappointed, and3. Then judging myself for being too needy,... by Yvette Erasmus | Jan 23, 2018 | Compassion, Courage, Empathy, Empowerment
As I was helping two people work through a conflict a few weeks ago, one of them turned to me and snapped,“So basically you’re accusing me of being abusive?”I took a deep breath.“OK. Let’s slow down … first, am I understanding what you are telling me...