by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 5, 2016 | Interdependence, Empowerment, NVC, Communication
On this Fourth of July weekend, I found myself listening to this song. (Yup. And now it will loop in your head too. You are welcome.) Relational independence is celebrated and revered: “If I never loved, I never would have died. I have my books and my poetry to...
by Yvette Erasmus | Jun 7, 2016 | Empathy, Empowerment, Connection, Compassion, Dialogue, Communication
When I used to hear things like: “Don’t take this personally, but …” or “I am not trying to criticize you, but …” my hackles would rise in preparation. My loyal defenses would kick in (we all know whatever follows that “but” is not going to be good) and I would...
by Yvette Erasmus | May 31, 2016 | Violence, Compassion, Leadership, Relationships, Empowerment
Do you have authority issues? I know that I do. I have a rebellious spirit, but I’m also a habitual people-pleaser. I find myself swinging between not wanting to participate in systems as they exist and trying earnestly to fit in and find a place of belonging and...
