by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 14, 2023 | Interdependence, Love
“Awakening to love can happen only as we let go of our obsession with power and domination … cultures of domination rely on the cultivation of fear as a way of ensuring obedience.” bell hooks The first place that each of us learns about love – what it feels like... 
by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 14, 2022 | Interdependence, Loneliness
Have you found yourself wondering if you’ll ever find “your people”? I’ve been hearing about this a lot recently … People feeling deeply lonely and isolated in their primary relationships People wondering if “their people” are out there, and if they are, where to find... by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 5, 2016 | Communication, Empowerment, Interdependence, NVC
On this Fourth of July weekend, I found myself listening to this song. (Yup. And now it will loop in your head too. You are welcome.) Relational independence is celebrated and revered: “If I never loved, I never would have died. I have my books and my poetry to... 
by Yvette Erasmus | May 24, 2016 | Growth, Interdependence, Learning, Relationships
Have you ever tried a new communication strategy and the other person respond in the same way as they usually do, and then you concluded that your efforts “didn’t work”? Me too. Then, I remind myself that change often happens beneath the surface, and... 
by Yvette Erasmus | May 16, 2016 | Interdependence, Kindness, Relationships, Universal Human Needs
Unexpected things can happen when we ask for help. My lawn has been turning into a wild field of lush wavy grass. Noticing that all other lawns on my street have been neatly manicured and trimmed, I tried to start the lawnmower last week. No luck. Following some...