by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 8, 2022 | Relationships
Last week, I described how I’ve come to describe the process of change and growth that we humans go through as the Change Spiral underlying much of my work.The quality of spiraling can feel like a revisiting of themes and patterns in our lives as we move through the... 
by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 25, 2022 | Relationships
You know two main things get in the way of setting healthy boundaries? Our fear of how other people might react. Self-doubt and insecurity about our ability to respond to those reactions in effective ways. This challenge is made even more difficult when we’ve been... by Yvette Erasmus | Sep 19, 2016 | Connection, Reactivity, Relationships, Shadow Work, Slowing Down, Suffering
Last week, I was casually telling some people about a time when a perspective shifted in my life and suddenly found myself choked up with tears and pain. My first thoughts: Damn. Not here. Not now.I was with a group of relative strangers, doing task-related,... by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 23, 2016 | Communication, Compassion, Dialogue, Empowerment, NVC, Reactivity, Relationships, Self-sabotage, Slowing Down, Universal Human Needs
This week I have the pleasure of responding directly to a question that someone recently sent me: I was recently having a conversation with my sister about how to gracefully bow out of a situation when we know we need to give ourselves time to re-energize.I... 
by Yvette Erasmus | May 31, 2016 | Compassion, Empowerment, Leadership, Relationships, Violence
Do you have authority issues? I know that I do. I have a rebellious spirit, but I’m also a habitual people-pleaser. I find myself swinging between not wanting to participate in systems as they exist and trying earnestly to fit in and find a place of belonging and... 
by Yvette Erasmus | May 24, 2016 | Growth, Interdependence, Learning, Relationships
Have you ever tried a new communication strategy and the other person respond in the same way as they usually do, and then you concluded that your efforts “didn’t work”? Me too. Then, I remind myself that change often happens beneath the surface, and...