by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 26, 2016 | Listening, Reactivity
Have you ever let things go because you are kind and generous … but then later find yourself indignantly accusing that same person of not fully appreciating you? Then you have a horrible argument and you each withdraw to lick your wounds.But, because you are a healthy... by Yvette Erasmus | Jun 7, 2016 | Communication, Compassion, Connection, Dialogue, Empathy, Empowerment
When I used to hear things like: “Don’t take this personally, but …” or “I am not trying to criticize you, but …” my hackles would rise in preparation. My loyal defenses would kick in (we all know whatever follows that “but” is not going to be good) and I would... 
by Yvette Erasmus | May 31, 2016 | Compassion, Empowerment, Leadership, Relationships, Violence
Do you have authority issues? I know that I do. I have a rebellious spirit, but I’m also a habitual people-pleaser. I find myself swinging between not wanting to participate in systems as they exist and trying earnestly to fit in and find a place of belonging and...