by Yvette Erasmus | May 25, 2021 | Communication Relationships NVC
Have you noticed how much information you can find “out there” about codependency and narcissism? It’s overwhelming. And let’s be honest: not all of the content is equally good, true, or helpful.While I’m delighted to see so many people becoming more and... by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 2, 2016 | Alignment, Communication, Inner Truth, NVC
Last week, I shared the story of how my teenage daughter responded to a heartfelt apology from me with:“Whatever. I don’t care.”And how I totally wanted to be like, “Whatever, I don’t care either.” (But, I do.) Followed by, “When someone apologizes to you... by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 26, 2016 | Listening, Reactivity
Have you ever let things go because you are kind and generous … but then later find yourself indignantly accusing that same person of not fully appreciating you? Then you have a horrible argument and you each withdraw to lick your wounds.But, because you are a healthy... by Yvette Erasmus | Jun 28, 2016 | Communication, Love
Being a person is hard. So many relationships are founded on entrenched patterns of judgment, criticism, blame, shame, manipulation, “feedback” (whatever that even means), analysis & evaluations.To make things worse, I then internalize these ways of thinking and... by Yvette Erasmus | Jun 14, 2016 | Connection, presence, Slowing Down
Yesterday I dropped off my daughter at summer tennis lessons, went to pay the fee, and found out that I would be charged a $45 surcharge each month because I wasn’t a resident of this particular suburb. I impulsively blurted out with irritation, “Oh Shit, you must be...