by Yvette Erasmus | Feb 14, 2023 | Interdependence, Love
“Awakening to love can happen only as we let go of our obsession with power and domination … cultures of domination rely on the cultivation of fear as a way of ensuring obedience.” bell hooks The first place that each of us learns about love – what it feels like... by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 23, 2016 | Communication, Compassion, Dialogue, Empowerment, NVC, Reactivity, Relationships, Self-sabotage, Slowing Down, Universal Human Needs
This week I have the pleasure of responding directly to a question that someone recently sent me: I was recently having a conversation with my sister about how to gracefully bow out of a situation when we know we need to give ourselves time to re-energize.I... by Yvette Erasmus | Aug 2, 2016 | Alignment, Communication, Inner Truth, NVC
Last week, I shared the story of how my teenage daughter responded to a heartfelt apology from me with:“Whatever. I don’t care.”And how I totally wanted to be like, “Whatever, I don’t care either.” (But, I do.) Followed by, “When someone apologizes to you... by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 26, 2016 | Listening, Reactivity
Have you ever let things go because you are kind and generous … but then later find yourself indignantly accusing that same person of not fully appreciating you? Then you have a horrible argument and you each withdraw to lick your wounds.But, because you are a healthy... by Yvette Erasmus | Jul 22, 2016 | Empathy, Empowerment, Kindness, Revenge, Self-sabotage, Suffering, Violence
Walking the dog this morning, I noticed my mind playing out a revenge fantasy that I have been harboring. Have you noticed how when people hurt us in deeply enduring and life-altering ways, we sometimes feel like the only way out of our pain and suffering is to hand...